Thursday, October 10, 2013

The Daddy Role

Whenever you meet someone and fall in love, maybe you talk about having kids, maybe you don't. You don't know what kind of parent you are going to be (although some people have it all planned in their heads) and you probably aren't sure what type of parent your partner will be. Some people step up to the plate and handle it amazingly. Some people can't hack it and choose not to be a parent; men and women included here.

When I first met Jason, he was at a point where he didn't want to have kids. He wasn't comfortable around them and he didn't think that he would know how to handle parenting one. When we found out about our little surprise baby, he was nervous, but he hung in there with me. He was right by my side during her very long labor (stubborn kid) and he jumped in with the diaper changing and bathing. He stayed home with her two days a week when I went back to work and got in some daddy-daughter bonding time.

He may have freaked out a little bit when she got her first fever when he was home alone with her, but got through it very well. He still hates it when she's sick because he just wants to fix it and make it all better. He is an excellent disciplinarian and she knows when daddy means business. My heart melts when he sits and reads to her or just snuggles with her on the couch.

This morning when I was in the shower, he got Emmeline up as usual only to find that she had peed in her bed. This is something we're still working on and the accidents are becoming fewer. However, she then ran to the bathroom only to not make it in time and had diarrhea. Again, he stepped up like a champ and got her cleaned up, gave her a bath and got her dressed, all the while keeping calm even though there was shit everywhere. I even offered to help, but he turned me down and took care of it.

I cannot tell you how proud I am of him and how lucky I feel that he has become such a caring an nurturing father to Emmeline. We are still working on the step-father role, but the daddy role is secure. I hope this little munchkin knows how lucky she is.